How to set up your parents’ Apple IDs so broken or lost iPhones never turn into a lost account
The Constant Problem: Older parents and relatives who do not understand the value of their Apple ID and password.
The amount they care about their Apple ID and password cannot be measured because no care on their part exists.
It never ends.
They drop their iPhone. It won’t even turn on. They get a new iPhone. They don’t know their Apple ID and/or password. The “lose” everything (even though it’s all likely sitting in iCloud waiting to be restored).
Here’s how to set up their Apple ID so a broken or lost phone never turns into a lost account.
Apple allows you to designate yourself (or another trusted family member) as a Recovery Contact. If they forget their password or get locked out, Apple sends a short recovery code directly to your device so you can reset their password instantly—no security questions or email verification required.
- On your relative’s iPhone, open Settings → tap their Name (Apple ID) at the top.
- Tap Sign-In & Security → Account Recovery.
- Tap Add Recovery Contact and select yourself from their contacts.
- Accept the invitation on your own iPhone.
Older relatives often trust paper far more than digital password managers. Create a dedicated physical sheet and store it somewhere fixed (like with their tax documents, passport, or taped inside a kitchen cabinet door).
Include the following specific details on paper:
• Apple ID Email / Phone Number
• Apple ID Password
• Device Passcode (the 4 or 6-digit passcode used to unlock the phone screen)
• Associated Email Password (if their Apple ID uses a Gmail/Yahoo/ISP email, write down that email password too, as recovery links often go there)
If you also want to protect their photos and data for the long term, add yourself as a Legacy Contact. This gives you access to their iCloud data if something ever happens to them, without needing to fight Apple with death certificates or court orders.
• Settings → Name (Apple ID) → Sign-In & Security → Legacy Contact.
Relatives often lose data because iCloud backup runs out of space or is turned off.
• Check iCloud Storage: Ensure they have enough iCloud storage (the 50 GB plan for $0.99/month is usually enough to cover photos, contacts, and phone backups). Bonus: Then you get to deal with them about entering their credit card info in order to pay Apple $11.88 a year.
• Verify Automatic Backups: Go to Settings → Name (Apple ID) → iCloud → iCloud Backup and ensure Back Up This iPhone is toggled ON.
• Remind Them: Remind them to connect to Wi-Fi and plug the phone into a charger overnight, which is when automatic iCloud backups occur.
| Action | What It Prevents | Setup Location on iPhone |
|---|---|---|
| Locks out due to forgotten password | Settings → Apple ID → Sign-In & Security → Account Recovery |
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| Missing photos, contacts, and apps | Settings → Apple ID → iCloud → iCloud Backup |
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| Forgetting screen lock or email password | Kept in a safe, physical location at home | |
| Loss of family memory archive long-term | Settings → Apple ID → Sign-In & Security → Legacy Contact |
If only we had a nickel for each time our parents or in-laws “forgot” (they never really knew) their Apple ID and/or password!
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Source link: https://macdailynews.com/2026/10/22/how-to-set-up-your-parents-apple-ids-so-broken-or-lost-iphones-never-turn-into-a-lost-account/
